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Love, Love, Love

It’s a profound mystery

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It was a beautiful warm Saturday morning and I was so engrossed in the general cleaning of the house. Great music was playing in the background that made me enjoy the duty.Then this particular song plays and stops me on my tracks.“Love like there is no such thing as a broken heart”by Old Dominion.

Here is a pull out..

“….How did my mom and my dad ever do it?
If there was struggles then we never knew it
I guess they had each other, that was enough….You know you can’t keep the ground from shaking, no matter how hard you try
You can’t keep the sunsets from fading, you gotta treat your life like
You’re jumping off a rope swing maybe’cause the whole thing’s really just a shot in the dark
You gotta love like there’s no such thing as a broken heart
You gotta love like there’s no such thing as a broken heart
…”


You bet that got me thinking,I had to listen to it again and again. The beats were captivating and so were the voices.My mind went on high drive,mmmmhhh..You gotta love like there’s no such thing as a broken heart.Seriously,what’s the alternative?

This life is so short to spend it wallowing in self pity and hate. I agree,we all have gone through pretty messed up breakups but that does not negate the fact that love is stronger than any other force in the world.I mean,how do you explain how two strangers meet and they turn each other’s world “upside down?” like the words of MichaeI Bolton :

“…When a man loves a woman
Can’t keep his mind on nothin’ else
He’d trade the world
For a good thing he’s found
If she is bad, he can’t see it
She can do no wrong
Turn his back on his best friend
If he puts her down…When a man loves a woman
Spend his very last dime
Trying to hold on to what he needs
He’d give up all his comforts
And sleep out in the rain
If she said that’s the way
It ought to be
…”


I chuckle when I listen to some lines above..I like listening to love songs just to understand love better..There are millions of love songs that have been sang by great legends to explain it,many poems have also been written to unearth the deep meaning of love.It’s really a twisted thing…(I don’t have a better term) but Wikipedia description has it as:

Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection and to the simplest pleasure.

Urban dictionary describes it as “A feeling that goes beyond almost all sense of physicality. To love is to feel such a strong feeling for another that you can understand them in a way few can. Their very existence is a gift and treasurerather they are with you or not. The merethought of them fills you with a deep hope for both the world and yourself.” …Now that is tough and tender at the same time.

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I am enjoying this journey called life.Its one enjoyable ride when there is the mystery of love to demystify. Join in the ride and let us live and fill this life with love and laughter..the world needs that and we owe it to ourselves.

And to crown it all,God created us out of His deep love for us.His love super-cedes every other kind of love.


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Life Lessons

Voyager of freedom

I have hurt and I have been hurt. I have loved with all my heart and I have been loved. I have lost and I have been lost. I have laughed…I have cried…I have yelled…I have thrown things…I have made the most of each moment and I have wasted time…I have thrown myself into things that I was not ready for and I have waited too long to jump on the train of opportunity. But all in all…I have learned and still learning.

There are days when I feel impatient with the way my life is going and I feel angry or frustrated. Yes my career is not going the way I planned and my job is not satisfying, yes I have financial problems, and yes caring for others can be tiring sometimes and I can’t find time for myself. I need to learn how to be patient. Sometimes the…

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It Could Have Been Worse

The Silver Lining Beneath Every Cloud

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We all have been on that place in life where anything that could go wrong did.You know, the day you wake up and all hell break loose on you. From waking up late,to missing your appointment,spilling every content,breaking whatever you hold with your hand,I mean,the day ends up been a bad hair day. However, the way you react from the first incidence determines the sequence of the day’s occurrences..well…at least to me…

There is always something to be grateful at the end of it all.Though at the moment it doesn’t appear so.Actually,it doesn’t surface until much later.There is a lot that we do not know and we may never know,at least not in this life.May be,just may be that delay or the missed bus,train or flight was a way God used to protect you from a grisly accident..that missed appointment would have been a divine way of God aligning you to a better job offer that would not have realized in any other way.

Some lifelong relationships have been formed from those spilled coffee moments,or those delays at the stations as they waited for their bus,train or flight..Some of the successful entrepreneurs trace their breakthrough from those letters of rejection from prospective employers..

So, regardless of the disappointments that life throws your way,just look up and be grateful that it could have been worse. And that you are fit enough to handle that because something better is on your way.God does close one door without opening another one. But sometimes we are so obsessed with the closed one we miss to see the open one.The best way to deal with the disappointment is to have a self talk and evaluate if there is any other option…can you change it? if yes,by all means do,if not,learn from it and move on.

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Next time you see a real sunset, take a deep look at it and let go of those dull moments and usher in a new season in your life..a better one than your past.

After every heavy downpour,there are rays of sunshine waiting to gush forth their beauty on the creation..Yours is on the way…


Dead End: What next?

You have two options.

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You know that feeling?You have been working so hard and looking forward to progress and it’s just not happening?You have done the best you know how but…..no,there are no results.It feels like you are drilling a hole in a wall using a pencil. Very frustrating!!

What are the options?

  • Giving up ….or……. Letting go

There is a huge difference between the two. Letting go means freeing yourself from something that is no longer serving you. It means removing toxic people and belief systems from your life so that you can make room for relationships and ideas that are conducive to your wellbeing and happiness.

Giving up reduces your life,letting go expands it. Giving up is imprisoning, Letting go is liberating,giving up is self defeat. Letting go is self care.

You have to discern when it’s time to let go. No matter how much you water a seed planted on cement,it can never sprout. Stop wasting your time and energy on something that will never see the light of day. Divert your so much needed energy on the positive and productive ideas that will bring you joy and fulfillment.

So you are at the end of the road, be glad that you have learnt a lot along the way,gather enough courage and let go.There is always a silver lining beneath every cloud..

So the next time you make the decision to release something or someone that is stifling your happiness and growth,and a person has the audacity to accuse you of giving up or being weak,remind yourself of the difference. Remind yourself that you don’t need anyone’s validation of your worth. You deserve the best in this life,in any case you are the one who knows what you have been through and only you know what you want!! It’s your precious life at stake here.

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God has a great future for you..

How To Enjoy Your Own Company

Because you are stuck with yourself for the rest of your life..

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You come home,you make some coffee

You sit on your armchair,

And all around is silence..except for the ticking clock,

Everyone decides for themselves if..

That is loneliness..

Or freedom…

I choose the latter. I like being alone(at least most times). I have control over my own space. It is in solitude that I listen to the inner voice..There are so many voices and sometimes I feel like am drowning . Just then I escape to find sanity; in solitude.

There is something powerful about solitude..

It brings independence.

You are able to hear more when you are in quietness..

In solitude, you get answers. How can you hear your soul if everyone is talking?It is in solitude that you get to know yourself better,your strengths and your weaknesses and how to become a better you.

Solitude is where you place your chaos to rest and awaken your inner peace.

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I cannot express the feeling when I retreat and just be by myself..Its exhilarating,refreshing and rejuvenating. Its those moments I talk sense to myself and get the much needed answers to life’s questions.

Solitude should not be confused with loneliness.

Loneliness is black coffee and late-night television; solitude is herb tea and soft music. Solitude, quality solitude, is an assertion of self-worth, because only in the stillness can we hear the truth of our own unique voices.- Pearl Cleage

Learn and master the art of solitude..Its a bliss…I must warn you though; it is addictive..Once you find how peaceful it is, you may not want to deal with people.

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Oh how I enjoy those moments..mmmhhh….P

How To Enjoy Your Own Company.

Because you are stuck with yourself for the rest of your life..

Photo by Alex Blăjan on Unsplash

You come home,you make some coffee

You sit on your armchair,

And all around is silence..except for the ticking clock,

Everyone decides for themselves if..

That is loneliness..

Or freedom…

I choose the latter. I like being alone(at least most times). I have control over my own space. It is in solitude that I listen to the inner voice..There are so many voices and sometimes I feel like am drowning . Just then I escape to find sanity; in solitude.

There is something powerful about solitude..

It brings independence.

You are able to hear more when you are in quietness..

In solitude, you get answers. How can you hear your soul if everyone is talking?It is in solitude that you get to know yourself better,your strengths and your weaknesses and how to become a better you.

Solitude is where you place your chaos to rest and awaken your inner peace.

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I cannot express the feeling when I retreat and just be by myself..Its exhilarating,refreshing and rejuvenating. Its those moments I talk sense to myself and get the much needed answers to life’s questions.

Solitude should not be confused with loneliness.

Loneliness is black coffee and late-night television; solitude is herb tea and soft music. Solitude, quality solitude, is an assertion of self-worth, because only in the stillness can we hear the truth of our own unique voices.- Pearl Cleage

Learn and master the art of solitude..Its a bliss…I must warn you though; it is addictive..Once you find how peaceful it is, you may not want to deal with people.

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Oh how I enjoy those moments..mmmhhh….

Friends For Life

We damn need them…totally…and for real..

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A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself..

The society we live in has curved and shaped us in a way that at times we forget who we are. If you are a lady, there are set standards for you, and they differ if you are married or single. Likewise if you are a bachelor, the standards are different from that of a married man..Seriously,this life is so complex when you think about it.

But a true friend will always show and remind you to be yourself..and while at it, be the best you can be!


Friendship isn’t who you have known the longest..It’s who walked into your life and said “ I am here for you” and proved it.

This life can get lonely at times but a true friend will show up at the right time and give you just the right words to diffuse that state of loneliness. That friend is the only one who will tell you the truth on your face even when it hurts. Why? Because he knows your true worth and will not allow you to live a lie..at least not to yourself..

In life,have a friend that is like a mirror and a shadow..one that can never lie and like a shadow can never leave. I must admit,they are rare but they are there. And when you find one, please don’t let go. It might be sticky and at times murky,but beneath all that is a heart of gold that seeks your good.

Having a soul mate is not always about love, but you can find your soul mate in a friendship..This is one who you can not dare play pretense,because he will sniff it from a far. You can be quiet and still talk volumes in that silence.Words are not necessary sometimes. That pat on the back or a gentle squeeze says it all. When hurting or going through those rough patches in life,a simple “you will be fine” calms your soul more than a dozen words from others…

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It takes a real friend to know the pain you are in beneath that smile and when everyone around you sees nothing…

A good friend knows your all you best and worst stories..a best friend has lived them with you..Through the thick and thin. Take keen interest in that friend who is happy for your happiness and sad in your sorrows. Keep the one who understand your silence,for times you won’t have the right words..

To my best friend…. I value you.. This life is worth living when I know I have a gem in a friend.

Best friends is a promise, not a label..