Because this life has a full dose of them.
The face lit up at the promise of a weekend get away to have time together with her new found love.It would be a road trip to the plains where they were to spend the night in a warm tent besides the sparks of a bonfire.The journey was to commence at exactly 2 p.m on a warm Friday afternoon.
Anna was literally counting the minutes to the long awaited 2 p.m.Her love was to pick her up at her apartment.She rechecked her packed bags to confirm she had everything set, she couldn’t afford to let anything or anyone mess with her weekend..
Seconds turned into minutes and the minutes turned into hours and when the clock struck 2 p.m,her heart raced with every click of the seconds. She expected a knock on her door anytime and she couldn’t contain her anxiety.
The buzz of her phone startled her back to reality… ‘‘ Hello,My love am so sorry we have to reschedule our plans…I had forgotten I had a presentation to make at work…”the voice on the other side of the phone trailed off….she didn’t hear the rest of the story. She just slumped on her seat and buried her head on the pillow and cried her poor heart out..
I am sure we all can identify with Anna.
Unmet expectations.How do we deal with that?
Unmet expectations can lead to our biggest disappointments.The higher the expectation, the higher the disappointment.
We should expect good things to happen but just be open to the form in which they show up.
My axiom over the years has been:always expect the best but prepare for the worst..I beg to be disputed on that but that has kept the disappointment to a minimum.so when it happens, what is the best antidote?
See disappointment as an opportunity for growth.
It all boils down to your reaction to it,if you wallow in self pity then it won’t be of help to you.
Look at it as evidence of displaced affection.Sometimes you expect more from others because you would be willing to do much for them.But the harsh reality dawns sometimes too late.
Don’t lose sight of your differences.
When you learn to accept than to expect, you will have fewer disappointments. Let go of expectations and find something to be thankful for even when things do not turn out the way you hoped, and you will experience serenity rather than resentment.
“I do my thing and you do your thing.I am not in this world to live up to your expectations ,And you are not in this world to live up to mine.
You are you, and I am I,and if by chance we find each other, it’s beautiful.
If not, it can’t be helped. — Fritz Perls, “Gestalt verbatim 1969”
That is my take as far as we are in this mortal bodies.But thanks be to God who never disappoints.. In fact, He turns the disappointments to divine appointments but only when we are keen to see and hear the still small voice.
Thanks for reading.